Episode 4

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15th Oct 2024

Discovering My Identity Through My Missing Father w/J. Rosemarie Francis

At 63 years old, I reflect on the absence of my father, a man I've never known, and how this missing piece of my identity has subtly shaped my life. A chance encounter in church triggers a profound realization that, although I never felt incomplete, the absence of my father has impacted my understanding of myself.

Ultimately, I learned that true self-knowledge comes from embracing the unknown parts of our stories, rather than seeking to fill every gap.d

Key Takeaways

00:00 I never thought much about my father’s absence, as my maternal grandfather filled the fatherly role in my early life. However, at 63, a single moment in church shifted my perspective on this missing piece of my identity.

02:00 The absence of a parent, especially for daughters in single-parent homes, can quietly shape identity, even if we convince ourselves we don't need that missing piece.

03:00 Embracing unanswered questions, rather than seeking closure through filling gaps, allows us to understand our story and to live within that uncertainty.

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About the Podcast

Abandoned Daughters of Caribbean Moms
Exposing the unhealed wounds and fractured relationships between Caribbean moms and their daughters caused by mass migration.
During the 1950s and 60s, hundreds of thousands of West Indians, including many Caribbean moms, migrated to the UK, Canada, and the U.S. for better opportunities. They played vital roles in industries like healthcare and education, significantly shaping the cultural landscape of their new homes.

However, many of these mothers left their children, particularly daughters, behind. While some daughters later reunited with their mothers, the emotional scars from these long separations often went unhealed, leaving many relationships fractured.

This podcast explores the profound and lasting impact of this mass migration on the daughters left behind, examining the emotional toll and the long-term effects of these unresolved relationships between Caribbean mothers and their daughters.

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J. Rosemarie Francis

As a daughter of a Caribbean mom from the Windrush Generation, I'm intimately aware of some of the challenges that the topic of this podcast talks about.

I'm the host of SoloMoms! Talk and Tools of the Podcast Trade Podcasts.